Worst relationship/dating stories?

[JDFP]

Right off the bat, I'm going to make an announcement that other than my grandma and my granny, I just don't really trust women (including my mother, who is crazier than most of the crazy gals I've dated). I don't have anything against women, I just don't really trust them as a general rule of thumb. Are there some amazing gals out there? Sure. I'd like to meet them too. It seems that two things have occurred with my dating in the past: 1. I'm lousy at finding girls that aren't thieves, whores, and just plain trash (even though they generally don't come off this way to begin with). 2. There just aren't alot of people (women AND men) out there that are really worth a shit. I hate most people straight-out becuase they are mostly scum (at least from my experiences). However, when a guy friend hates you or screws you over, it's usually no where near as personal or cruel as a gal doing it (at least from what I've seen). I'd be remiss if I said I haven't made some terribly poor choices in the 'ladies' I've chosen to date. I met one girl at a bar while seriously drunk (Rule # 1: Do NOT ever pick up girls at a bar, especially a hole-in-the-wall redneck bar that I go to for the primary purpose of getting drunk and listening to Merle Haggard). I dated TWO girls I worked with (Rule # 2: NEVER date a girl you work with, this only ends badly, don't do it!), and I jumped way too fast into a relationship with one gal when all my friends were telling me that I shouldn't (Rule # 3: If your friends are all telling you that she's not good, you should usually listen to them; you almost never will, but you should). So, a funny thing has really happened the last couple of years (I'm 29 now); I've realized what it took my dad three failed marriages (mom has gone through three of them too, I always thought her and my dad were in a race to see which one could end up with more divorces) to realize: I'm perfectly content and happy being single. Really, I mean life is simple and I don't have to worry about anyone except myself (and watching out for family of course). I get up in the mornings and get ready for work, work, and go home and have the evening to myself. I watch whatever I want whenever I want to, go wherever I want when I want, and it's freaking fantastic. I'm just really not interested right now in dating or having a serious relationship. Not that there's anything in the world wrong with it, but it's just not for me where I am as a person right now. The sad thing is that it's taken me until the last few years to really realize this as I used to think I *needed* to be in a relationship which caused me to go from one bad relationship of heartache and disappointment (and credit card theft and fraud in one case -- that was fun!) to another bad one. Anyway, enough of my incessant rambling. What about you all? Any horror stories? What are your worst relationship/dating stories? Where do you stand now on the whole deal of relationships/dating? j.p.

[acealive1]

besides the fact im in a relationship right now, i TOTALLY agree with you. i had virtually no luck until a couple of years ago. cap can tell u about some of the strumpets i ran into. in ohio for the most part color matters. i've seen multiple people tell their kids date anyone but a black guy. it's kind of mind boggling that in 2010 color is still something that people hate....yet they go tanning.

[Trin]

So j.p., is this a thinly veiled attempt to troll the forum for chicks?

[AcesandEights]

Sounds like I've been asked to tell the tale of my life story So j.p., is this a thinly veiled attempt to troll the forum for chicks? Or troll the chicks of the forum, depending on how anti-womenfolk this thread gets I may contribute my rogue's gallery list of past girlfriends when I have a bit more time.

[Andy]

Capn will tell you what i been like with my ex's and ive been with some shitty girls (especially the last one lol) but i really think ive struck gold this time and me an my girl have been together over a year now and i couldnt ask for more from her. Just keep your chin up buddy.

[JDFP]

So j.p., is this a thinly veiled attempt to troll the forum for chicks? Wait, we have chicks now? (of course Marie and Chic and occasionally Debbie, but they are part of our little family), but otherwise I can't think of any that last very long. I'm not trying to be anti-womenfolk, just interested in hearing others horror stories about relationships/dating in general as well as your thoughts on the whole process. I'm personally at a point where I just don't care anymore and just ain't interested in the whole thing at all. Too much previous bad mojo. It is a little frustrating when you have friends/family etc. that are trying to always set you up when you keep trying to explain to them over, and over, and over again... sigh... that you just aren't interested in dating right at this moment in time. That usually also leads to people staring at you like you're crazy. Why do some people just not understand that alot of us that are single just prefer being single? Is it that difficult to grasp that concept? Chic/Marie/Debbie and any other 'chics' here that accidentally stumble across the forum and decide to post are, of course, more than welcome to also post their horror stories of dating/relationships too. j.p.

[acealive1]

Capn will tell you what i been like with my ex's and ive been with some shitty girls (especially the last one lol) but i really think ive struck gold this time and me an my girl have been together over a year now and i couldnt ask for more from her. Just keep your chin up buddy. thats true. chin up.

[slickwilly13]

If you want to find "good girls", then travel. People from diffrent parts of the world will act diffrent from one another. There are diffrent cultures, upbringings, and situations. For example, if you look at women from Central America or Eastern Europe they are not going to act like some spoiled and materialistic American girl who parties and does drugs. Sure, they are out there in those places, too, but you will have a better chance at finding someone with better morals or family values. If you are not finding it in TN, then I suggest looking elsewhere. I am in the same boat as you with women. And it seems like the good girls in my area are already hooked up. I was fortunate enough to meet an exchange student from Odessa, Ukraine a couple of years ago and stayed in touch with her when she went back. Move forward to today and I can honestly say we are very close. We are not bf/gf, because she is on the other side of the world, but if she was over here, then we would be an item. She has more class in her middle finger than most women I dated. I know for a fact the Pizz is hooked up with a South American, so I am certain he could touch base on the subject about women from diffrent parts of the world and how they act compared to local women. The single life rules and there is nothing wrong with it if that is what makes you happy. But for those who are not finding what you are looking for locally, then it is time to look elsewhere.

[Tricky]

I've had more than my fair share of relationships or potential relationships that havent worked out either due to me or due to the girl, in fact im very close to breaking things off with the girl i've been with for the past year, she's a really nice, very intelligent & very pretty girl, but we have very little in common which means I cant get her to gigs or to do anything exciting, & call me an arsehole as I know a lot of girls will, but for superficial reasons I've gone off her too. The girlfriend before the one im with now left me absolutely gutted, we had a whirlwind romance in the first 3 months of 2008 which I wasnt expecting & I fell for her in a big way, but before meeting me she'd arranged to go & work on a cruise ship in the Caribbean for 8 months, we both agreed that we'd keep things going while she was away & that when she came back we'd start making plans for a future! Normally I dont fall for people that quickly but I was besotted with her (which made me naive). So we had 3 months together as a proper couple, then she left to work abroad. The first 2 months or so that she was away it seemed to be going well, we were in touch every day with emails,texts & phonecalls, but then all of a sudden I hardly heard from her for a couple of weeks, then she sent me some long winded message about the distance being too much and she couldnt see it working out etc, which was bad enough, then the next day she altered her facebook relationship status to say she was with some dickhead she'd met on the ship, I was crushed! Took me the rest of that year to get over it, sad eh! Worst part is I should hate her for the fact she ditched me for some other bloke, but I'd get back with her in an instant if i could I've had a lot of casual relationships over the years too, but I agree with whats been posted above that I actually prefer being single, certainly while im still relatively young! Too many girls have these unrealistic expectations of a relationship which I blame on all these american shows like "Friends" and "one tree hill" that they're spoon fed daily, and far too many try & turn lads into a boring farts who stay in all the time, which doesnt suit me at all seen as Im very much into socialising, keeping fit, music gigs, extreme sports & outdoor adventures. Call me selfish but I dont see why I should give up all that, just because im in a relationship, and although its nice to be with someone long term, im not interested in turning my life into some uneventful "mature" situation where the only excitement is visiting Ikea or occasional nights out/cinema trips. Theres a lot of old mates I've had over the years who have gone down that route and I dont see them anymore, we havent fallen out or anything, but as soon as they got a girlfriend they just disappeared never to be seen again which makes me feel a bit sad sometimes As JDFP said, I too used to think I *needed* to be in a relationship, but I actually dont, and although I'm in one now I'm kinda looking for a way out (Im a coward & darent be upfront & honest with her just yet). It'll all change when/if I find "the one" I suppose, but for the moment I'd just like to be on my own again to live life as I see fit!

[acealive1]

jd, try going outta town. or los angeles. u don get laid there, i might have to lay hands on you

[Tricky]

Book yourself a flight to Magaluf this summer, theres women from every country in Europe holidaying there, and I shit you not, Polish women are the most beautiful I've ever met, I've met plenty of them on my travels and im yet to meet one that isnt drop dead gorgeous!

[MikePizzoff]

Will's right. I've been living with my girlfriend for 2 years now, and it's been the best 2 years of any relationship I've been in - by far. Her family is Ecuadorian, so she does have values/morals/etc much different than every other woman I've dated. She truly believes in compromise and equality in our relationship, not this "ME ME ME" shit we've all dealt with at one point or another. It's great. I dated one girl for 5 years, and we were close to best friends for 3-4 years prior to that. Toward the end of the relationship, shit started to get pretty rocky. The day before I embarked on a tour, she sent me an e-mail saying we should take a break - I found that pretty conspicuous considering I was about to be far away for weeks. When I returned home, she acted like she wanted to work things out. Long story short, while I was on my best behavior and treating her like the Queen of England, she was busy fucking dudes (and so-called "FRIENDS" of mine) behind my back! After I finally told her to fuck off, she acted like it was all my fault and I haven't really spoken to her since.

[darth los]

After I finally told her to fuck off, she acted like it was all my fault and I haven't really spoken to her since. Well isn't that what they all do despite their hoeyness?

[acealive1]

Will's right. I've been living with my girlfriend for 2 years now, and it's been the best 2 years of any relationship I've been in - by far. Her family is Ecuadorian, so she does have values/morals/etc much different than every other woman I've dated. She truly believes in compromise and equality in our relationship, not this "ME ME ME" shit we've all dealt with at one point or another. It's great. I dated one girl for 5 years, and we were close to best friends for 3-4 years prior to that. Toward the end of the relationship, shit started to get pretty rocky. The day before I embarked on a tour, she sent me an e-mail saying we should take a break - I found that pretty conspicuous considering I was about to be far away for weeks. When I returned home, she acted like she wanted to work things out. Long story short, while I was on my best behavior and treating her like the Queen of England, she was busy fucking dudes (and so-called "FRIENDS" of mine) behind my back! After I finally told her to fuck off, she acted like it was all my fault and I haven't really spoken to her since. some girls are cunts

[paulannett]

Book yourself a flight to Magaluf this summer, theres women from every country in Europe holidaying there, and I shit you not, Polish women are the most beautiful I've ever met, I've met plenty of them on my travels and im yet to meet one that isnt drop dead gorgeous! Magaluf is a cock fest! C'mon! I've been twice and the first time I got lucky with a stunning English girl (mini-holiday romance!) and the second time, there were 5 guys per girl! Go backpacking! I've never had sooo much fun and never had so many women trying it on with me... my accent does wonders! Seriously, I was only away for 3 weeks and I had my choice of women of many nationalities (American, Canadian, Polish and Spanish being my top picks!). Oh and I agree with what you say about Polish women, wow. I was in Krakow for a few days and I was blown away! ---------- Post added at 11:14 AM ---------- Previous post was at 11:10 AM ---------- As for relationships and dating etc, they are nice to be in, but are over-rated. HOWEVER, if you are in a relationship, let it be a part of your life. NEVER let it be your life.